Love bomber has a barroom epiphany – The Denver Post


Dear Amy: I’m a 65-year-old woman.

I’ve been divorced three times now, and have also had a couple of other serious love relationships — all unsuccessful.

I’m single now and trying to understand what I’ve been doing wrong.

Understand, I’m the one doing the leaving every single time, so my “excuse” has been that I have a “broken picker,” but that sounds like BS — even to me.

I was reading your column and the topic of “love bombing” came up.

That’s me! That’s what I do!

I even caught myself love-bombing last week! Some drunken idiot had started flirting with me at a bar, and even as I was thinking to myself “What a fool this guy is,” I was practically fawning over him, doing the whole hanging-on-every-word, oh-aren’t-you-fascinating response.

What the heck?

In that moment I recognized my pattern of meeting an interested man, “reeling him in” with all that flattery and attention, and then realizing he’s a totally inappropriate fit and discarding him, often only after years and years of misery.

What the hell is wrong with me and how do I stop?!

I’ve wasted nearly my entire life in this self-sabotaging behavior, and I just want to scream, and hang my head in shame.


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