Annual hike brings on major tears



Dear Amy: My husband and I don’t have children, but we are friends with many couples who do, and we enjoy spending time with these families.

Before they had children, one particular couple used to do an annual hiking weekend with us.

Once the kids came along, they wanted to continue this tradition and bring the kids.

Amy, I love spending time with our friends’ children, but this trip is not a kid-friendly experience.

Last year, their children, ages 2 and 4, cried almost the entire time as they were dragged through the heat on rough terrain for eight hours, where their parents expected them to walk most of it.

I didn’t blame these children for hating it. It wasn’t fun for anyone.

I do not want to go on this trip this year, and I’d like to find a way to be honest about why, without having them think that we don’t want to spend time with their kids.

I suggested to them that we do a shorter day trip on some easier trails nearby because the kids would enjoy that more.

They replied that they wish to teach their kids “stamina” and that we can “give them breaks and they’ll be fine.”

I disagree and think the trip will be a disaster again, and the three-hour drive to get there isn’t really worth it.

Is there any other polite way of eliminating this trip, at least until the kids are older?





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